Aphrodisiacs…. With Love this Valentines Day x

14 Feb

Rebecca Goodyear shares pampering ideas and more with us this Valentines Day


An aphrodisiac by definition is something that increases sexual desire. Objects may be considered aphrodisiacal because of the way they look (some aphrodisiacs resemble sexual organs – oysters and bananas for example) or because of their physical composition and the effect certain ingredients have the on body as well as taste, feel and smell. The word aphrodisiac comes from the Greek goddess of sexuality and love, Aphrodite.


There are many weird and wonderful aphrodisiacs from all around the world, including Birds Nest Soup, literally made from an Asian Swift’s birds nest, Dog and Wolf meat in the Philippines (sorry I couldn’t sacrifice my precious Mimi for all the sex in the world!) and even Deer Penis Wine, popular with Chinese, Japanese and Korean men. Sadly, so strong is man’s desire to achieve sexual arousal through such animals who walk this earth with us we have seen some animals become endangered, such as tigers, rhinos and turtles (turtle eggs are aphrodisiacs in Mexican tradition and hunting for the eggs has led to a decline in population.)


Welcome to the Valentines Day special! In this feature I am going to take you through an at home spa treatment, not exclusively for couples, you can always recreate for yourself, your friends or treat your family. I have also put together some ideas for an aphrodisiacal menu to leave any couples in the mood for love this Valentines Day, as well as not too bloated for their treatment! You can read more about the aphrodisiacal qualities of the ingredients and obtain full recipes for the food dishes as well as some more beauty recipes on my blog, Biteable Beauty – http://www.biteablebeauty.com


At Home Spa Treatment


Hot Chocolate Mud Bath




200g Dark Chocolate

4 Cups Whole Milk


Optional – Ground Spices such as Cinnamon or Ginger,

Oils such as Vanilla, Rose or Almond


If you’re lucky enough to have a bath, you can make like Cleopatra but with a chocolatey twist and bathe in milk. Those without a bath can proceed to the next recipe. The Aztecs referred to chocolate as “Nourishment of the Gods”. Dark chocolate is packed full of antioxidants and has more anti-cancer enzymes that red wine. Chocolate when eaten releases a neurotransmitter called phenylethylamine also know as the love drug as it reduces stress, improves mood and quickens the pulse creating a feeling like that of being in love. So make sure you have a nibble whilst preparing the bath! Cleopatra reportedly bathed in milk to keep her skin soft and there is some science behind this. Lactic acid contains alpha-hydroxy acids (you may have seen AHA written on beauty products) which encourages exfoliation naturally and therefore removal of dead skin cells.


To make, simply heat the milk in a milk pan with pouring lip. Melt the chocolate in a bowl over a pan of boiling water then add to the hot milk. Pour under running water and finally add any spices or oils of your choice. Enjoy the bath for at least 20 minutes for best results and follow up with a body scrub to remove any dead skin cells the AHA has loosened.


Cinnamon and Ginger Body Scrub




1 Cup Brown Sugar

¼ Cup Honey

¼ to ½ cup Sweet Almond Oil

1 tbsp Freshly Grated Ginger (or ½ tbsp ground)

1 tbsp Freshly Grated Cinnamon (or ½ tbsp ground)

8 drops Vanilla Essential Oil


Cinnamon has been used traditionally as an aphrodisiac to stimulate sexual desire in men, even referenced in the bible where a seductress lured her prey to a bed strewn with cinnamon! Some studies have proven men to be attracted to the scent of cinnamon in…. baked goods! Considered a sultry base note, cinnamon has been used in perfumes since ancient times Ginger improves circulation and is therefore said to enhance sensitivity in the erogenous zones whilst the scent of vanilla is believed to increase lust. In Egyptian times many formulas to cure impotency and infertility were based around honey, hopefully you won’t need honey for this reason!


To make, simply mix the brown sugar, ginger, cinnamon and honey in a bowl. Once well mixed, pour in bit by bit the sweet almond oil until the brown sugar if saturated. Finally, add the vanilla essential oil and give a final mix.


To use, simply take a small amount in your hands and apply, I usually start with the arms, move on to the body then the legs and finally the feet. Rinse away with warm water to reveal softer, sexy scented skin!


Rhassoul Clay


Rhassoul Clay is a special clay from Morocco, high quality and mineral packed. Not an aphrodisiac, but it’s lots of fun getting covered in it and not as messy as you might think! It is gentle enough to use from head to toe, even on sensitive or dry skin conditions, although I would always recommend doing a patch test on the back of your neck or wrist to check for any allergic reaction (particularly to sulphur). Widely available on the internet, I buy mine in bulk from Sadie at Greenwich Market, also available online at www.rawbeautyonline.com


To use, simply mix the clay with tepid water to make a paste. I use a paint brush to apply all over. Start with the head and hair, then the face and finally the body. Leave on for 10 minutes then rinse off with warm water.


Now it’s time to do the feet. First prepare two small hot towels per foot by spraying with water, or scented water if you like. Then roll them up and place in a metal colander above a pan of boiling water for a couple of minutes. Take of the heat and cover to retain as much heat as possible. Now apply rhassoul clay paste all over the feet, ensuring any dry patches get a good covering. Wrap the feet in towels and leave for ten minutes. Now remove the towels, taking off the clay with them and using a second towel if necessary. Now it’s time for the final stage of the spa treatment, the body massage.


Body Massage Oil Blend for Her


This is a sensual blend of flower essential oils. Jasmine is a confidence booster, Ylang Ylang has an uplifting effect on the emotions and its sweet distinct aroma acts as a catalyst to fuel passion. Rose is said to reduce anxiety connected to sex and calm emotions that block arousal.




100ml Sweet Almond Carrier Oil

5 drops Jasmine Essential Oil

5 drops Ylang Ylang Essential Oil

2 drops Rose Essential Oil

2 drops Vanilla Essential Oil


Body Massage Oil Blend for Him


A manly massage oil to get him in the mood! Basil has been used for centuries to stimulate sex drive and boost fertility. It improves circulation therefore promote enhanced sensitivity in the erogenous zones. Lemon is uplifting and refreshing whilst black pepper is stimulating and energising. Pepper also contains piperine, which according to ancient beliefs can stimulate sexual function.




100ml Sweet Almond Carrier Oil

5 drops Basil Essential Oil

5 drops Lemon Essential Oil

2 drop Black Pepper Essential Oil


To make simply place the carrier oil in a dark glass bottle (to prevent from going rancid prematurely) add the essential oil drops, put the lid on and shake well.


Now you may not be the best masseuse in the world, but here are a few tips to help you give the best massage you possibly can –


  • Set the scene – relaxing music, natural scented candles, clean scented sheets will all add to the experience

  • make sure your nails are smooth

  • warm the massage oil bottles in a bowl of warm water, make sure this is within close reach as you will need to oil up several times

  • make sure you and your partner have a drink close by to sip, water or wine

  • cover your partner with a towel or if you have a silk sheet even better. Move the cover down as you work your way down the body

  • always stay in contact with your partner’s body once you begin the massage

  • never apply the oil directly to your partner’s skin, always rub between your hands to warm before applying

  • be gentle! Remember you are not there to give a deep tissue sports massage or work out any knots, leave that to the professionals. You are giving a relaxing, sensual massage aiming to get your partner in the mood!

Do Something Romantic – Whatever your Budget


It’s true, some of the best things in life are free! Take advantage of England’s famous green spaces and go for a walk in the great outdoors, Whether you go to a park, escape to the countryside or even go on an urban walk. A romantic walk is the perfect way to reconnect with your partner and remember what it was that first attracted you to them.


Get away to a spa for a day,or even just an afternoon treatment. There are lots of offers to be found on sites such as lastminute.com and Groupon so even the smallest of budgets will find something. We went to The Spa, Dolphin Square, London and experienced a Hamam and a Moroccan Majorelle. It was excellent all round. The service was impeccable, the décor extremely tasteful and the treatments were simply wonderful. I left with smooth, soft skin and hair and the full body massage alleviated all the tension in my shoulders and back. For prices and more information go to www.dolphinsquare.co.uk For my full write up visit www.biteablebeauty.comImage


Escape for a weekend away to an eco-friendly chic retreat. Again, keep your eyes open for deals online. We are heading to The Cottage Lodge in Brockenhurst, for more information and prices visit www.cottagelodge.co.uk Powered by renewable energy sources and the food is responsibly sourced and local produce used wherever possible. Check my blog for how we got on there.


Menu Plan






Asparagus and Mozzarella wrapped in Prosciutto


Asparagus and Poached Egg (V)


Main Course


Filet Mignon served with a Mustard and Peppercorn Sauce


Chicken and Avocado Salad


Truffle Risotto (v)




Chocolate Pots with Espresso Whipped Cream


Raspberries and Strawberries with Whipped Cream







Remember to drink in moderation, a couple of glasses of wine or champagne if you’re feeling plush is fine but any more and you could find yourself too drowsy for the after dinner activity!


A small espresso after dinner can also help stimulate the body and mind but not too much else it will act as a depressant.



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